I bought a copy of Elizabeth is Missing in the 3 Paperbacks for £10 deal on Amazon. I bought it purely because I liked the look of the cover; I knew nothing about it… but I’m so glad I did!
This is the story of Maud, and told in the first person from her perspective. Dementia is not really mentioned, but you quickly realise that must be what’s going on with her. She is very forgetful and this gets worse as the book goes along. She leaves notes for herself everywhere, so that she can try and keep track of things she needs to know; her handbag and pockets are full of notes, but she can never remember which ones are still relevant. It is through these notes that she reminds herself that her friend Elizabeth is missing. It’s infuriating for her though, because every time she tells someone that Elizabeth is missing – even the police – she is either ignored, laughed at, or told not to be so silly. Maud is doing her best to keep remembering that Elizabeth is missing, and to find out what has happened to her.
Alongside the present-day story, Maud is remembering part of her childhood. Her older sister disappeared shortly after the end of the Second World War, and nobody ever knew what became of her. Maud is mentally retracing her steps in the months after her sister’s disappearance, trying to figure out what might have happened, like a detective going over an old case. She remembers conversations with her parents, with their lodger Douglas, who seemed to have been spending more time with her sister than anyone realised, and is keeping a secret of some sort, and with her brother in law Frank, who disappeared at the same time as her sister, but then reappeared a few weeks later.
This story is absolutely heartbreaking. Towards the end of the book Maud is very confused, and concentrating so hard on what was happening in the 1940s, she is confused as to the identities of the people she is faced with in the present day. Having written a post last week about being a dementia friend, I found it sad to read in this book about how people treat Maud. People saying “you don’t remember me… don’t worry, you never do” or a police man laughing because she’s come in again to report her friend missing. It’s sad but I think a lot of people with dementia are laughed at or disregarded as just being a bit dotty. I love that the outcome of this book has Maud proving she was right about certain obsessions she had (I am being deliberately vague as I don’t want to give anything away). It kind of feels like a point for dementia sufferers who aren’t just talking jibberish and want their voice to be heard, even if they can’t remember everything.
Because Maud has dementia, and the story is told entirely from her perspective, we don’t know any more about what has happened to Elizabeth than Maud is able to remember. The book gives a real insight into what it must be like to be living with dementia, both as the sufferer and their family. So many times in the book, Maud loses the thread of a conversation while it’s still in progress, and looks down at her notes to find things she’s obviously (to the reader) just written, but doesn’t know what they are in relation to.
As well as being a cracking mystery, the book deals with the problems faced by the family of someone with dementia. Maud still lives in her own home, with a carer and her daughter visiting regularly. There is a note above the cooker telling her not to cook anything, but she’s not sure why, and surely eggs won’t hurt, will they? Eggs aren’t even proper cooking… She has to be locked into the house at night otherwise she wanders off, and often loses track of whether it’s day or night so makes phone calls at inappropriate times. It’s sad to think the question of what to do about this must face so many families. Maud says several times in the book, I’m not an idiot just a bit forgetful. Although no part of the book is told from her daughter’s perspective, it shows what a horrible dilemma she faces, and also the tension she’s under when her mother has asked her the same question every day, or told her Elizabeth is missing several times a day, seemingly for months.
I found this book so hard to put down, that towards the end of it I was wandering into the kitchen to get a snack while still holding it in front of my face. The two different stories are woven together so perfectly, and the ending is something I certainly could not have guessed at – though, as with all good mysteries, the clues are there when you look back. The ending of this book is so perfect, so fitting, it’s hard to imagine any way it could have been improved. In fact, every little thing in this book seems to have been so perfectly crafted as to fit together like a million-piece jigsaw. Every throw-away comment seems to have been a clue as to what was coming.
The Daily Telegraph said this book was Memento as written by Alan Bennett, and I think that’s a perfect description. Maud is trying desperately to get to the end of this story, but keeps losing the thread of it in her mind. She knows there’s something she has to remember, but isn’t sure what, so she delves into her pocket for a handful of scraps of paper with notes. Which ones are from today, though? Are they all still relevant?
I was frankly astounded to find that this was Emma Healey’s debut novel. It won the Costa First Novel Award last year – deservedly so, in my opinion. And she’s only 29 as well. What a career this woman certainly has ahead of her; I can’t wait to read her next book!
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21 Comments
Char · 23/03/2015 at 07:02
Yes!! Agree with all of this. I found this book so moving and emotional, and was equally glued to it. This has made me want to read it all over again!
Vicky Charles · 23/03/2015 at 08:53
It is one of those ones where you feel like you could read it all over again, even though you know what happens.
Elaine Livingstone · 23/03/2015 at 08:18
what a nice indepth view, will need to look pout for this one. I am only 55 an leave myself notes to remember things
Vicky Charles · 23/03/2015 at 08:51
lol so do I! This definitely gave me food for thought, it’s a fantastic book.
chantelle hazelden · 23/03/2015 at 09:04
This has been on my TBR list for a while after reading another bloggers review, you’ve just prompted me to bump this up my list!! thanks for sharing with #readwithme x
Catherine · 23/03/2015 at 10:34
The cover is intriguing as is your review. Will look out for this one :)
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Natasha Mairs · 23/03/2015 at 13:24
this book sounds brilliant. I have just posted a review of Before I go to Sleep about a women who wakes up every morning with no memory of who she is. It is so far my favourite book. so i’ll be putting this one on my to-read list #readwithme
Vicky Charles · 23/03/2015 at 13:35
omg I loved Before I Go To Sleep! The ending of that book was so amazing. Looks like we have similar taste in books!
Iona@Redpeffer · 23/03/2015 at 16:07
I’ve thought about buying this, but decided against it just for now-I too wrote a post for dementia friends about my gran and it feels a little too close to home right now. Having said that, I intend to read it later on, because it does sound exactly like my kind of story.
Vicky Charles · 23/03/2015 at 17:28
That’s understandable. My nan died several years ago, and this book made me terribly sad for what she must have gone through. I think the author based it on her own grandmother.
Sharon Powell · 23/03/2015 at 18:27
This book looks really good and something I would really enjoy. And I love the look of the cover. I’m going to have a look on my kindle x #readwithme
Vicky Charles · 23/03/2015 at 20:25
Do it! You won’t regret it!
Sarah Doyle - let them be small · 23/03/2015 at 20:07
Oooh, I have seen this a lot and am very tempted by it. Added it to my wish list :-0
PS what a bargain from amazon!!
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Vicky Charles · 23/03/2015 at 20:25
Yes – one of those dangerous bargains!
kidGLloves · 24/03/2015 at 06:38
The Mother says – I am always looking for a good read and this sounds amazing. I am really intrigued now as to what happens. Guess when I’m in town at the weekend, I may be popping into the book shop! #readwithme
Boo Roo and Tigger Too · 24/03/2015 at 17:07
I need to add this to my ‘must read’ list, it sounds a powerful book #readwithme
karen · 25/03/2015 at 22:33
I might have to add this to my holiday reading pile, it sounds like a very good read. My grandmother and uncle both had dementia, so it’s an emotional topic for me, but I think I will give it a go! :) Popped over from Read With Me. Ps well done on your Tots Ranking!
Christine · 02/04/2015 at 17:16
Hey, I just wanted to thank you so much for this review! I wasn’t looking for a book to read, but I couldn’t resist snagging this one after reading your thoughts. I LOVED it! Fab book.
Thanks so much for guiding me to it! :)
Vicky Charles · 02/04/2015 at 17:21
Ah brilliant Christine, so glad you liked it!
Stacey Guilliatt · 10/04/2015 at 22:21
This sounds really interesting, going to add to my tbr list I think #readwithme
Vicky Charles · 11/04/2015 at 08:50
It’s a fantastic read, I loved it and I don’t know anyon who’s read it and didn’t.